The first meeting: thirty minutes that decide the deal

28 Aug 2026 MeetingsDiscovery

You walk into the first meeting with a twenty-slide deck. You leave having talked for twenty-five of the thirty minutes, and the customer says "nice, send us a quote". Then they vanish.

The 70/30 rule

Seventy percent of the time, they talk. If that does not happen, you do not know what you are selling them, you know what you own.

A thirty-minute structure

MinutesWhat happens
0–3Frame it: "I want to understand your situation, and if we are not a fit I will say so"
3–15Current state: how this is done today, and where it breaks
15–22Impact: what the breakage costs, time, money, or opportunity
22–27A short demo of only what relates to what you heard, not the whole product
27–30Next step with a date and who attends

Five questions worth memorising

  1. "How is this process done today, step by step?", the answer reveals everything.
  2. "When did it last break, and what happened?", a story beats a general description.
  3. "If nothing changed for a year, what happens?", measures urgency, and without urgency there is no budget.
  4. "Who else will be involved in evaluating this?", reveals the committee early.
  5. "What would make you say no?", the bravest question, and the biggest time-saver.

The sign the meeting worked

Not "they liked the demo". It is that they mention a detail you did not ask about, a budget, an internal problem, someone who objects. That means they moved from evaluating you to thinking with you.

The worst way to end a meeting

"Send us a proposal and we will study it." If you hear it, ask: "Before I send — who will read it, and what matters to them?" If there is no answer, the proposal will die in an inbox nobody opens.

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